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Should Couples Share Money?
Love and money are sensitive topics by themselves. Put them together and a therapist has a lot of material on the table. So let’s begin with the most general of…
Posted inCovid Depression Relationships Self-Help Students
5 Strategies To Use When You Begin A Comeback
The truth is that at some point, life will knock you down. Bulldoze you to the ground, kick you while you are there, and then it will rain or shine…
Posted inRelationships Self-Help Students
What Messages About Yourself Are You Sending To Others?
One of the most powerful advantages of solution-focused therapy is its ability to give the client control of his or her therapy. A client learns to see himself through his…
Posted inRelationships Students
Buzzword: Build Your Social Capital
We’ve heard before how important it is to have a support system of healthy relationships. I’ve described it as having a garden of friends, each useful and beautiful in his…
Posted inParenting Relationships Students
Learn This Skill: Let Others Solve Their Own Problems
This is one of my favorite skills that I teach. It comes in handy for parents, friends, family, and coworkers. Sometimes it even makes sense for couples, too. In order…
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Learn this Skill: How To Make a Proper Apology
I could start a whole new blog (and I’m sure you could too) with the dozens of sometimes hilarious attempts at apologies I hear at my office (and yes, from…
Posted inAnxiety Relationships Self-Help
Tips for Singles From a Couples Therapist
(Conquering What Ifs Part 2) Last year one of my columns addressed some of the common concerns that young couples have when they enter my office. They are asking the…
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Couples: Start Avoiding These Four Horsemen This Summer
Hopefully one day I will have the skills of Dr. John Gottman, who has been studying couples in his “Love Lab” up in Seattle for years. It is said that…
Posted inDepression Relationships Self-Help Students
In The News: Our Obsession with Happiness
Our persistent search for the perfect happiness formula has led to many paradoxes. As a nation we have become sadder and more anxious as we search for these golden rules.…
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Why Can’t Some “Mr. Rights” Tie The Knot?
(Part 1: How we handle “What Ifs”) There’s a new book out to talk about this summer during wedding season. Are grooms really disappearing? I’m not sure this book has…