Posted inRelationships Students
Buzzword: Build Your Social Capital
We’ve heard before how important it is to have a support system of healthy relationships. I’ve described it as having a garden of friends, each useful and beautiful in his…
Posted inParenting Relationships Students
Learn This Skill: Let Others Solve Their Own Problems
This is one of my favorite skills that I teach. It comes in handy for parents, friends, family, and coworkers. Sometimes it even makes sense for couples, too. In order…
Posted inAnxiety CBT in Action Depression
The Flip Side Of Your Problems: Some Surprising Benefits
When discussing perceived “flaws” in counseling, my clients are often surprised to discover that the very things the dislike about themselves can be reframed as beneficial in some way. Therefore,…
Posted inCBT in Action
How Solution-Focused Therapy Increases Your Luck
Have you ever wondered at the difference between those who seem blessed with luck and those who seem perpetually unlucky? It turns out that the most essential quality that lucky…
Posted inRelationships Students
Learn this Skill: How To Make a Proper Apology
I could start a whole new blog (and I’m sure you could too) with the dozens of sometimes hilarious attempts at apologies I hear at my office (and yes, from…
Fix Your Problems in the Long Term by Giving Yourself a Break
OK, so the people who come to my office are not ready to take it easy. They are interested in problem-solving and usually frustrated by what they perceive to be…
Posted inSelf-Help
Treatment Corner: Anger Management
Anger is one of the hardest emotions to express in therapy. When I say to a client, “It sounds like you are pretty angry with so-and-so”, they often deny it.…
Posted inCBT in Action Students
Strength-Based Therapy v. Insight-Oriented Therapy
We practice Solution-Focused Therapy and use a lot of Cognitive Behavioral techniques. This kind of therapy is considered “strength-based” as opposed to “insight-oriented.” Strength-based therapy focuses on the present and…
Posted inHabit & Time Management Self-Help
Which Time Personality Are You?
I’ve been recommending this book a lot lately: “The Time Paradox” by Philip Zimbardo. The concepts are sound and extremely useful for instruction in counseling. There are three main “time…
Posted inCBT in Action Depression Students
Treatment Corner: Bipolar Disorder
We think of someone as being “bipolar” in quite casually these days; usually we’re describing someone who is moody. Be careful with that label: true bipolar symptoms are like no…