Fix Your Problems in the Long Term by Giving Yourself a Break
OK, so the people who come to my office are not ready to take it easy. They are interested in problem-solving and usually frustrated by what they perceive to be…
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Treatment Corner: Anger Management
Anger is one of the hardest emotions to express in therapy. When I say to a client, “It sounds like you are pretty angry with so-and-so”, they often deny it.…
Posted inHabit & Time Management Self-Help
Which Time Personality Are You?
I’ve been recommending this book a lot lately: “The Time Paradox” by Philip Zimbardo. The concepts are sound and extremely useful for instruction in counseling. There are three main “time…
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Tips for Singles From a Couples Therapist
(Conquering What Ifs Part 2) Last year one of my columns addressed some of the common concerns that young couples have when they enter my office. They are asking the…
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Treatment Corner: Binge Eating
We all overeat sometimes. So what is binge eating? Eating, in a discrete period of time, an amount that is definitely larger than most people would eat in a similar…
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A Twist on Rewarding Behavior
If you’ve set a goal for yourself before, you’ve probably also chosen a particular reward for your achievement: Clean out garage = dinner and a movieStay on track with budget…
New Year’s Resolutions: What You’re Doing When You Make (and Break) Them
How are your New Year’s resolutions going? (Did you even make any this year?) I’ve come up with three possible reasons that resolutions are going out of style: We are…
Posted inDepression Relationships Self-Help Students
In The News: Our Obsession with Happiness
Our persistent search for the perfect happiness formula has led to many paradoxes. As a nation we have become sadder and more anxious as we search for these golden rules.…
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A Gift Only You Can Give To Yourself: Acceptance
My clients who learn to practice acceptance usually end up on the fast track to their goals, because acceptance is power. When you accept a person or a situation for…
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A Simple Lesson to Use Everywhere: Cross-train
This will draw sharp contrast with the stock market and economic woes, but let’s say you’re feeling pretty good right now in spite of everything. Your money is spread out…